Safely Locked Away

How many times have you heard it warbled in songs, spoken earnestly in movies, expounded in books, or whispered over pillows: That solemn pledge that you can tell her anything, because she wants to know the real you, and that honesty is paramount?

Don't believe it.

It's a trap.

If women want to know why men don't share their innermost thoughts, it is because they often get in trouble for them. Are you really surprised that he was looking at that girl? Then why get upset if he admits she is attractive? Don't, don't, don't ask a question you don't want the answer to.

And heaven forbid if you actually have a criticism of her. All promises of amnesty get thrown out of the window, quickly followed by your earthly possessions.

No, it doesn't happen with all women. And it doesn't happen all the time. But it has happened to me often enough that it is much easier, much safer to claim that you aren't thinking, that you don't have any thoughts or opinions.